Testimonials

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Ina D

(Ina attended an NVC course for parents in Howth, Dublin, Ireland, with Olga in 2012)

Introduction

I am a mum of 3, babywearing consultant, breastfeeding counsellor and teacher. As well as running my own wee business (www.bumptobeyond.com), I am also an active member of Cuidiu (parent support charity) and Babywearing Ireland (voluntary babywearing organisation)

Why did you decide to attend an NVC course?

I was a mum of 2 before the course and although I’m married, I was mainly a single working mum as hubby works long hours, 7 days a week, in a low income job. I was tired, easily irratable and kind of “swimming” in space without much grounding

How did you discover Olga’s NVC courses?

I trained with Olga as a Babywearing Consultant where I first heard about NVC. I was training as a Breastfeeding Counsellor at the time and was fascinated by Olga’s compassion during the Babywearing Training. I looked into NVC a bit more from a counselling perspective and when the opportunity came to take part in a workshop here in Ireland, I went for it … mainly to add to my toolkit as a counsellor.

What have you got from your NVC course?

I learned a lot for counselling situations. But, as it turned out, I learned even more about and for ME. During the activities the recurrent issue that surfaced for me was that I felt I was drowning in all the responsibilities and felt unsupported. I learned that I had needs and that they are just as valid as anyone elses!

The workshop has helped me hugely in identifying the needs behind my own emotions and reactions (following through is something I’m still working on!). It has been very beneficial in working with parents both as a breastfeeding counsellor and babywearing consultant and also in navigating difficult situations as a chair person in a voluntary organisation. And I am much more able to take a step back from situations with my own (now 3) children and being empathetic towards their needs and views of the world.

Your recommendations?

Do it 🙂

Olwen R, Ireland

(Olwen attended an NVC course for parents in Galway, Ireland, with Olga in 2012)

Introduction

I’m a wife, a mother of 3 busy boys (2, 5, 9), a part-time university lecturer, and a Certified Trageschule Babywearing Consultant, and I run a babywearing consultancy as well as working as a babywearing advocate as a volunteer for Babywearing Ireland.

Why did you decide to attend an NVC course?

Although I pride myself on being very articulate (I’ve always been interested in words and literature), before I did the course I felt that I often couldn’t find a way to connect with other people in the gentle way that I wished to. I especially struggled when trying to express myself with my husband and children and I really wanted to find a way to respecting my integrity and needs in a way that also respected their needs and integrity and maintained our strong connection.

How did you discover Olga’s NVC courses?

I had been volunteering with Babywearing Ireland for a couple of years when I heard that Olga was coming to Ireland to run a Trageschule training course. I was delighted to go on the course, and I was really amazed at how Olga used language and her ability to tune into what was alive for everyone at a particular time. In her role playing around different situations, I felt very inspired by her ability to remain compassionate and respectful and still honest about her own views and needs. When someone who had been on the course with me let me know that they had arranged for Olga to come to Ireland to run an NVC course for parents I knew it was the right thing for me to do. It actually turned out that I was able to arrange for Olga to come to Galway to run a course here. That has been of extraordinary benefit as it meant that I had a number of friends locally who came to the course and we continue to share discussions and thoughts about how we can use NVC.

What have you got from your NVC course?

When I went on the NVC course, I felt very inspired. I also felt a bit frustrated because I expected to come out of the course totally versed in NVC. But once I realised that learning NVC was akin to learning a new language I found that I was able to shift my expectations and experience NVC as a journey of learning and it has been really life changing. I still feel like I am at the early stages but it has transformed how I experience and hear my own needs (my inner voices are much kinder and more compassionate!). It has also transformed my experience of being a mother and being able to really hear my children and to be able to connect compassionately with my husband. In terms of work it has helped me to really connect with parents wherever they are on their parenting journey and it has changed how I interact with students in the university. I feel that for much of the time (I still aspire to being able to do it all of the time!), I can choose to connect with people and hear them in a meaningful way, without shifting into a defensive or self-protecting mode. This has been especially important to me while I am mothering young children and I struggle to meet basic needs for sleep and time off – I feel that for much of the time now I can hear other people’s requests with compassion both to myself and others. Olga has been an amazing facilitator and an inspiration.

Your recommendations?

Olga is wonderful to work with. Not only is it an inspiration to see her modeling real life NVC on a course, her role-plays are enlightening. It has been inspiring for me to really see how real and connected someone can be while teaching and facilitating. Everyone I know who has attending a talk or course on NVC by Olga has felt enriched and inspired afterwards.

Catherine H, Ireland

(Catherine attended an NVC/Compassionate Communication Course for Parents with Olga in 2012 and 2nd level NVC Course in 2013)

Introduction

Hi my name is Catherine and I am a mother of 3 young children. I also work as an accountant 4 days a week.

Why did you decide to attend an NVC course?

Our house is very loud and used to feel aggressive. I worried that my children would be scared by the shouting and then later thinking it was normal add to the noise. As the we had more children and they got older the house became louder and louder.

How did you discover Olga’s NVC courses?

As I learnt about attachment parenting, Marshall Rosenberg’s book was recommended to me. I loved the book but struggled to put his ideas into practice. I jumped at the chance to learn from Olga how to apply NVC when the opportunity was offered to me.

What have you got from your NVC course?

I don’t know if I can communicate effectively what an improvement NVC has made to my life (and by extension my family’s life)

I no longer take offence from people communicating their feelings, there is still shouting and noise but it’s not as extreme or as aggressive. I feel like I am finally modelling the behavior I would like my children to follow and discussions with my husband are so much more constructive and understanding.

At work I can give much more empathy and even if some of my work relationships have not improved I no longer lose any sleep over it.

Your recommendations?

I found Olga’s workshops excellent and among the best courses I have attended (through my work I attend a lot of courses). I would highly recommend them to everyone.


Loretta K, Ireland

Loretta attended Olga’s NVC Course for Parents in Ireland in 2012.

Introduction

My name is Loretta and I live in Cork, Ireland with my partner and three children. I work part time for a charity as an advocate and resource officer. I am currently training as a doula and studying (long term) to eventually practice as a psychotherapist.

Why did you decide to attend an NVC course?

My daily endeavour is to find moments of calm and stillness in the midst of noise and chaos! I had difficulty in allowing for space and time when inter personal problems presented. I wanted immediate solutions, in particular with my children. I found it very difficult to see and acknowledge the needs of my partner and children, in particular when I needed to get things done. Very challenging to be patient and listen to very small children, intervening in arguments, coupled with tiredness, broken sleep, lack of energy in looking at long term ways to look at issues arising, preferring a quick fix solution, even if this didn’t always work!!

How did you discover Olga’s NVC courses?

I saw an NVC course advertised in Dublin which I had just missed. I had been very interested in doing an NVC course for some time so got in touch with you directly to see if you would come to Cork! And am so delighted you did! I was pregnant with my 3rd child then and knew I needed a few new tools and techniques if I were to be able to survive!

What have you got from your NVC course?

I am much better able to allow others the space to be themselves, I am better able to sit with the noise. I am better at not blaming and of acknowledging the needs in others. I feel more grounded in myself and better able to really be with my children and partner.

Your recommendations?

Olga is a tremendously patient, compassionate, and intuitive person who has helped me enrich both my personal and professional life through NVC. I would love to work with her again. She is a woman who knows a lot about a lot and seems to live her life full of grace, attentiveness, heart and connectedness . It was an enormous pleasure to spend a weekend of NVC with Olga.

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