NVC skills for supporting ourselves and others in loss, grief or trauma

Who is this course for?

This intermediate to advanced level NVC course could be for you if any of the following may be applicable to you.

Perhaps, you are often able to get to the heart of what’s important for yourself and the other person – yet there are some situations where you find yourself at a loss of what to do as you would get increasingly frustrated or distressed when dealing with a person in throes of acute grief or loss?

Maybe, you have found yourself in situations where you really wanted to support your friend dealing with bereavement, a family member who have had a traumatic experience and was left shaken up, or your child who came back from school shocked and shaken up– and did not know what else you could have done when everything that you have tried did not seem to be helpful to them?

Perhaps, you have found yourself in the situations where the peace and calm that you can get to shifted to frustration and irritation or even fear, in the face of your own or others’ intense, prolonged and uncomfortable feelings? For example, as a passerby witnessing an accident and stopping by to support the person impacted by it? Or at a hospital when your child or family member had to undergo a painful and uncomfortable test or treatment?

Or, if you have a child in your life who often experiences seemingly “normal” events (e.g. at school or at the doctors’ or the dentists’) as traumatic and feels shaken up for a while, you would love find more ways to offer them support and unconditional love when they are finding the life challenging? As well as to be able to recharge yourself when supporting them?


What’s in it for me?

During this course, you would get more understanding of what trauma is and what can be supportive when dealing with it. These are everyday emotional “first aid kit” skills that everyone can benefit from. You would be able to use them for yourself if you find yourself shaken up or shocked (e.g. during an accident or feeling scared after witnessing something). You would be able to use them with the children in your life, family members and friends, to support them in regaining their equlibrium.

To be able to learn them, you do not have to be medically trained. These skills do not replace the support of a qualified healthcare provider.

Once you learnt and practiced these skills on the course, as well as deepened your understanding of human experiences of grief, loss and trauma, practicing them in your daily life when an opportunity arises, may help you to come back to your inner peace. This also may help you to become a port of calm in the storm, for yourself and others.

These skills may help you support yourself or others when dealing with prolonged, intense and painful emotions. Some examples of this include experiencing grief, loss, bereavement, or even trauma.

The course draws on Nonviolent Communication approach (Dr Marshall Rosenberg, www.cnvc.org), and the work of other CNVC Certified Trainers (Robert Gonzales, Susan Skye, Inbal Kashtan), as well as theoretical information and research by Daniel Siegel, Peter Levine and D. Goleman .

What moves you to share this?

Since an unexpectedly traumatic birth of my first child more than ten years ago, I have been interested in what helps us to regain inner balance and peace after experiencing a traumatic event. I was wondering what it is that helps some people to recover after traumatic events, grief or loss. I am very grateful that I found NVC. I have really benefited from its many wonderful tools that empowered me to make sense of my experiences, to emotionally support myself and others in my life in some really rough spots, and to become free from the trauma of the past.

In my line of work and volunteering ever since, I have been offering support to many people who have been facing challenging, difficult and traumatic events. Some examples of these are the loss of a baby, a loss of pregnancy, a loss of one’s dreams (when things have gone drastically different from the plan), bereavements, domestic violence, physical violence. I have found that particular NVC skills have been very helpful for my staying present to myself and the others in these painful, challenging and emotionally intense (and often prolonged) situations.

I have also found these skills invaluable for offering support to my own children and other children in my life, around some events that they could have experienced as traumatic without this support.

And now I am feeling inspired to share my learnings and experiences with you too, in the hope that with those skills, you can spread even wider ripples of support, peace and hope in your communities.

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